Never Give Up

Forgiveness: it's a decision. You may not feel like you've forgiven someone. But the point is that if you decide you're going to forgive someone, you have to act like it. Hiding bitterness, pretending to forgive, is not forgiveness. Just like love--it's a decision--followed by action. Even if you don't feel like it. And think about this: in Ephesians we are told to forgive others just as in Christ God forgave you. Think about that! God is forgiving you. Every time you sin. That's like a million times a day. You can't expect to get all the forgiveness yourself and not forgive others when they've wronged you.

I know, I know. It's hard. You have already forgiven them thousands upon thousands of times. And the verse about 70 times 7 keeps sticking in your head. But it feels impossible because you're sick of doing all the work! And they've hurt you so much! But they are willing to change. You are not. You actually admitted it. But don't give up. Think about this verse: God can do far abundantly above all that we ask or even think!!! If only you will decide to work at it again...He will give you the grace to forgive and once that happens, then the healing process starts. But right now there's this wall of bitterness. It has got to be broken down. That's what the problem is now. I know they started it. But they are sorry and again, are changing. But as you know, this is a partnership--both partners must participate or nothing will be accomplished.

Please don't give up. You have been an inspiration so far for sticking it out. Don't become another statistic. Think about all the people you could help once you've made it...people dealing with the partner who has gone through the same thing. You could be an inspiration to far more and all the while giving a great testimony for the One who's gotten you over the mountain.